“Vision is the art of seeing what is invisible to others.”

“Vision looks inward and becomes duty.Vision looks outward and becomes aspiration.Vision looks upward and becomes faith.”

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

what i say




man's work is to break inability,

to achieve it or not is destiny.

everything has something,

that something is nothing,

which is everything.


Patience is an action- understanding the different reactions.

the goal is infinite, the paths are infinite,

the ways are infinite, the universe is infinite,

all paths lead to infinity.

truth is not the end, but means to an end.

mortality is lost when sense of reality is found.

solutions are created before problems.

The only justice is poetic justice.

Monday, June 7, 2010


whenever i see babies or little kids and see a smile on their face i smile too and feel really happy seeing them so i added those pictures hoping to give u a smile back.i smile coz they look so innocent and they are angels that i cannot resist my self holding them i remeber when i was younger and when some families have babies ,when they cry i always embrace them and pamper them they fall asleep or stop crying.i remeber this incident it was so nice and weird too, i saw a little boy he was about 18 months in the street with his parents he was so cute, he was crying alot so hard that i saw his parents are so much concerned, they didnt know how to calm him down.i stopped next to them and offered my help to carry the baby im a stranger to him he should have gone more mad but he saw me opening my arms to hold him he stopped crying and opened his arms towards me in order to carry him.i held him i felt a connection that was so weird to me i embraced him and started to play and tickle, i saw him smiling and laughing to the funny words i was pampering him with , his parents were astonished alot but they were very happy to see him smiling mom was so impressed she told me maybe the little boy he felt that deep in my heart true love to children ...that could be the connection!!!!!!i dunno i still wonder why inspite i was a stranger he felt peace and calm with me is there possible any connections with people or kids we dont know and when we meet them we feel like we know them very well......can u tell me what u think?

Saturday, June 5, 2010

How to Ease Your Worried Mind?

Stress levels in adults soared, with 42 percent saying their stress worsened in the past year. A survey of eight metropolitan cities, Atlanta, Chicago, Denver, Los Angeles, New York, Seattle and Washington, D.C. found that Denver fared the worst. More than 75 percent reported work and money are major sources of stress. People feel trapped due to lay-offs, pay cuts, heavier work loads and health insurance concerns. When you feel a lack of control over your own life, the body can take a hit. Some symptoms of stress include:
sleep problems
gastro-intestinal disturbances
substance abuse
heart disease
If you feel like anyone driving slower than you is an idiot and anyone going faster than you is a maniac, then you’re too stressed (thank you George Carlin for that one). If you drive to work, get out, lock the car and discover your coffee mug on the roof of your car, then you’re too stressed. If your friend asks you “how are the kids?” and you reply “what kids?” then you’re too stressed. You might assume you will feel less tense if you can change some circumstance of your life. You expect to feel relieved if you:
Can get a job.
Can save money.
See the economy improve.
Get health coverage.
Have more time to relax.

Unfortunately the world does not rotate according to our personal needs. It’s healthy to learn to generate a feeling of calm within yourself, no matter what happens outside of your sphere of influence. You might think “it’s impossible to feel calm with so many stress0rs in my life.” Amazingly, you can learn to produce a feeling of calm within yourself with little effort in a few minutes. I’ll share one simple technique with you. This comes from Buddhist monk and peace advocate, Thich Nhat Hanh (tik not hahn). It’s called Wonderful Moment.
Breathing in, I know I am breathing in.
Breathing out, I know I am breathing out.
Breathing in, I notice that my in-breath has become deeper.
Breathing out, I notice that my out-breath has become slower.
Breathing in, I calm myself.
Breathing out, I feel at ease.
Breathing in, I smile.
Breathing out, I release.
Breathing in, I dwell in the present moment.
Breathing out, I feel it is a wonderful moment.
This simple brief exercise in mindfulness carries within it some serious scientific credibility. First it focuses our attention on our breath. Breathing in, breathing out. Breathing is primary nourishment for the mind and body. Next, we think of the words deep and slow. When we breathe deeply we oxygenate our blood, providing needed fuel to help the brain process more efficiently and effectively. When we think of slow we reduce the speed of our racing thoughts that drive worry. Next we focus on the words calm and ease. We focus our attention on the possibility that in this moment we can feel calm and ease. This sends a message from the brain to the body to relax, reduce the blood pressure and restrictions creating tension in the body. The word smile triggers the face to smile, releasing natural opiates that reduce pain and increase well-being. The word release sends the message to let go of the tension the body holds onto like a gripping fist. With each breath, release tension and worry. The words present moment remind us that life only truly exists for us in this present moment. To feel fully alive we must return to the immediate moment. Finally, the words wonderful moment alert us to the promise of wonder and joy in every instant. Easy and effortless.
In the words of the great Carole King and Gerry Goffin in their song Up on the Roof:
When this old world starts getting me down
And people are just to much for me to face.
I climb way up to the top of the stairs
And all my cares just drift right into space.
The great thing about the Wonderful Moment exercise is you don’t even have to climb any stairs to let those cares drift into space. Breathing in, Breathing out, deep, slow, calm, ease, smile, release, present moment, wonderful moment.

Is this noise inside my head bothering you?

Not just my head, but your customer's head and yes... yours.
Everyone has multiple conversations and priorities going on, competing agendas that come into play every time we make a choice about doing, buying, creating or interacting. I think these voices (and a few I missed) determine which career we choose, how good a job we do, where we shop and what we watch. Here are a few:

The ego--seeks applause and recognition.
The lizard--seeks safety, wants to fit in and not be rejected or criticized.
The artist--wants to be generous, creative and make positive change with impact.
The boxer--wants to poke and be poked, seeks revenge and ultimately victory.
The zombie--wants to turn off and be entertained.
The carpenter--seeks to do useful work, and finish it well.
The philanthropist--wants to help, anonymously.
The evangelist--wants to spread an idea.
And the hunter--wants to successfully track and bring down a target.
There's a lot of overlap here, no doubt about it. Who's winning?

Thursday, January 14, 2010

On Learning to Cope with Conflict

“Peace of mind is not the absence of conflict from life, but the ability to cope with it.” ~Unknown
I fell apart a couple of years ago, unable to cope with the strain I was under—a change in my lifestyle, loss of job security, a less-than-perfect relationship with a parent, bereavement, a painful physical injury, and slowly, through all of that, the blossoming of serious mental illness.
All the while, right up until this month in fact, I’ve been thinking and wishing: “I want all of this to go away, to have never been.”
I shut myself away—terrified of people’s reactions to my mental health, convinced that my life was over at the age of twenty-three. I’d never be able to get a job again. People would be too frightened to talk to me if they knew the truth. I’d never make a friend again, and the ones I’d managed to keep hold of as I gradually came apart at the seams would end up leaving me.
My wish came true as I began to hide myself away. I stopped doing the things I loved, like going out for walks along the riverside and meeting up with close friends. I became a hermit and was pretty relieved to have all of the conflict and the potential for conflict that I was so anxious about vanish from my sight.
I felt safe for the first time in months even though I had sacrificed many of the things I loved. I was happy enough and that was good enough.
It didn’t last long though. The space created by the absence of all that conflict I was desperate to escape was soon filled with grief, disappointment and loneliness. I realized too, that what I had been so eager to get rid of was circling the outskirts of my new found “peaceful” disposition— paperwork that I’d avoided, stories I’d not written because I didn’t think they were worth writing and a constant state of paranoia. Who could I trust?
I think the worst thing that came from isolating myself was how I’d simultaneously isolated my remaining friends, the ones I was terrified of losing through misunderstanding and fear. My mental health had changed drastically and I had pushed away the people that I really needed around me. I not only lost out on a wealth of support but also denied them the chance to learn about and understand me better.
I’m now twenty-five. I’ve been working with an occupational therapist for a few months, trying to tackle the areas of my life and my thinking that stop me from coping and living the life I want.
I smile more. I’ve applied for a job I know I’d enjoy without being worrying about the odds of getting it. And I don’t feel that it’d be the end of the world if things didn’t turn out the way I planned or if I received criticism from someone. I feel more prepared.
I can’t push away my problems and hide from conflict no matter how difficult or frightening it all can be. I can’t avoid it and pretend it’s not there. I’ve learned that in order to be confident and move forward in life, I have to face my problems and stand up to conflict.
I have to approach it not with fear but with an open mind, a willingness to learn. I have to be ready to listen, understand, show compassion and recognize my own flaws. The things that keep me terrified—I have to challenge them.
I still have bad days and I still sometimes hide when everything gets too much. I’m not perfect but then I don’t think that’s the point. We all shy away at some stage and that means we can always try again. I’ve learned, and taken to heart, that the important thing to remember is this: once we’ve managed one conflict, coping with the next won’t be as bad. That’s a great weight to have off your mind.

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

7 Ways to Get Past Tough Situations Quickly

“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond to it.” -Charles Swindoll
One day everything seems great in your world; maybe not perfect, but overall things are going to plan. And then something happens.You lose your job. Or someone you love. Or your home. Or maybe even your health.
It isn’t fair. You don’t deserve it. You didn’t see it coming. You didn’t plan for it. You have so many feelings and frustrations you don’t know what to do first–or if you want to do anything at all.
It would be easier to sit around feeling bad. Looking for people to blame and complain to. Rehashing what you could have done to make things happen differently. Or what you would have done if you only realized before. Or what other people should have done to help you.
All great options if you want to maximize your misery and feel justified in doing it. Not so great if what you want is to deal and move on.
You have to do this eventually when something bad happens; and the faster you do it, the sooner you’ll improve your situation.
There is no shortage of opportunities to practice dealing well. If you’d like to work on improving the 90% of life that is how you respond, you may find these tips helpful:
1. Make acceptance an immediate priority.
Dealing with a bad situation can be a lot like dealing with grief–and people often go through the same stages: shock and denial, pain and guilt, anger and bargaining, and so on.
You might not be able to fully squelch your emotions; but you can decide to accept what’s happened, regardless of how you feel about it. The sooner you accept it, the sooner you can act from where you are–which is the only way to change how you feel.
It’s like the quote from a recent post on getting started when you don’t feel ready: “Don’t wait for your feelings to change to take action. Take the action and your feelings will change.”
2. Remove fair from your vocabulary.
As kids we’re all about fair. “He took my train–it’s not fair.” “You said you’d buy me a new bike–it’s not fair!” “I had that crayon first–it’s not fair.”
You’d think we’d learn early on that life isn’t fair; but instead we cling to how we think things should be. Hard work should be rewarded. Kindness should be reciprocated. When things don’t work out that way, we feel angry at the world and bad for ourselves.
Feeling outraged about life’s injustices won’t change the fact that things are often random and beyond your control. When you start going on an unfair spiral, remind yourself, “It is what it is.” And then choose a reaction that aligns with the way you’d like the world to be.
3. Focus on the life lesson.
In Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff, Richard Carlson recommends pretending that everyone is enlightened but you–that everyone you meet is here to teach you something.
In this way, you’ll see someone who annoys or frustrates you as an opportunity to work on your patience. This same mindset can help improve the way you interpret and respond to events in your life.
If you lost your job, perhaps the life lesson is to determine your true purpose. If your relationship falls apart, the life lesson may be to become more independent. Focusing on the lesson allows you to work on positive change, which will make you feel empowered instead of deflated.
4. Question whether it’s as big a problem as it seems.
We often turn minor upsets into huge catastrophes in our minds. Little in life is as horrible as it appears to be at first. Some things are challenging–like losing your job, your home, or worse, someone you love. But most situations can be solved.
Sometimes they’re even blessings in disguise. Barbara Rommer, M.D., interviewed 300 people who’d had near-death experiences. The majority of her subjects experienced spiritual awakenings, proving that what didn’t kill them only made them stronger.
Whatever you’re dealing with, is it really the end of the world? And more importantly, if you bounced back with an even better situation–a higher paying job, or a more satisfying relationship–how impressed would you be with yourself?
5. Make “Get strong” your mantra.
You may think Kanye West doesn’t have a place in tinybuddha world, but the dude got one thing right: “N-n-now that which don’t kill me can only make me stronger.”
This idea has saved me many times over. At 21 I spent four months hospitalized with a serious illness, and missed my college graduation. So much felt unfair about how it all panned out.
Then I remembered what my friend Rich had told me: “I know you feel powerless right now, but you’re going to rock the world when you get strong.” Whenever I deal with adversity, I remind myself to keep rocking.
6. Remember you can continue from this new place.
It’s easy to get attached to the road you’re on, especially if it makes you happy. When something or someone throws you off, you may feel disconnected from who you want to be or what you want to do in life.
It may help to remember a hurdle doesn’t have to obliterate your plans. Even if you lose your job, you can still pursue your professional goals–and maybe even more efficiently.
There is always more than one way to skin a cat. The sooner you focus on finding a new way, the sooner you’ll turn a bad thing good.
7. Ask yourself how someone you respect would handle the situation.
I recently put my heart into a blogging competition. I had to get votes from the public to win; and I ran a huge campaign to accomplish that. I ended in second place with just over 57,000 votes.
When I didn’t win, I felt disappointed and even a little embarrassed. I’d failed in front of thousands of people. My best wasn’t good enough.
So I asked myself how someone with integrity would handle the situation. The answer: she’d congratulate the winner. Identify everything she learned from the experience. And move on to the next goal with her head held high. Acting on that advice made me feel proud of myself instead of disappointed.
People will remember the things you accomplish, but the way you handle life’s challenges can affect them just as strongly. Life happens, and it isn’t always easy. You can bemoan it and fight it, or see dealing with life’s challenges as the most important challenge of all.
You can’t always get what you want; but you can work at being who you want to be no matter what life throws at you.